The Sacrament of the Present Moment

In therapy and in my own life I am always seeing the need for mindfulness and staying present in the given moment. For many of us this can be a real challenge when we are thinking of our plans for this summer, what’s for dinner tonight, or maybe regretting something that has happened in our past. For…

Praying with Anxiety and Depression

Have you ever been in adoration and thought “Why can’t I stay focused in prayer?!” Have you ever been silently praying and all of a sudden you are consumed with fear, doubt, or stress? Most people don’t like to be alone with their thoughts. If you struggle with anxiety and depression you may find it…

Are you in a Toxic Relationship?

Have you or a friend ever been in a relationship where the other person was a little too needy, controlling, or demanding? Too often we can see the effects of how an unhealthy relationship can affect someone mentally, emotionally and spiritually. So how would you know if your relationship is toxic or unhealthy? This is…

Get in the Friendzone

Have you ever witnessed an awkward relationship between a guy and girl where maybe one has a crush on the other but has never said anything or where the boundary between friends and boyfriend/girlfriend is blurry? At the end of the day sometimes relationships with the opposite sex can be difficult to navigate and we…

Radical Honesty

How honest are you? How honest are you with yourself? Recently I was reminded of the importance of honesty in the therapeutic process and relationship. As I have mentioned in previous newsletters, therapy is  foundationally about having a relationship with yourself. The cornerstone of this process is self-honesty. Many people view honesty as telling the truth to…

The Value of Emotions

Have you ever been confused by an emotion you have? Have you had to ask yourself why am I so angry? why am I feeling so down, right now? Sometimes emotions can be confusing. It’s easy to be swayed by them completely or on the other side wish that they could be completely turned off. So how…

Problem Solving 101

Whether it’s your set of circumstances or with another person, as human beings, we are going to encounter conflict in our lives. There are many problems that we deal with on a daily basis, from figuring out what to do about the homework assignments we forgot, to dealing with drama at school, to being in…

Triggers & Hurts

Often times we can find ourselves angry or frustrated and not even know why. Sometimes it is easy to notice that a certain something said to us, or a behavior, can trigger us in certain ways. These situations and triggers are important and can reveal helpful self-knowledge. The more we understand about ourselves, the more we…

Active Listening 101

What does it mean to really listen to someone? How do you keep your mind from wandering during a conversation? As humans we all have a deep desire for intimacy and therefore a desire to be heard and understood. Listening is a key skill and component to any relationship. Here are a few tips to…

Things That Aren’t Helping Your Mental Health

Growing up there were many times I would sit in Adoration trying to pray, but my mind would be all over the place. I couldn’t stop thinking about things I needed to do and worrying about what was going on in my life. For a while I thought I wasn’t praying right, but I soon…